I ve always believed that the key relationships in my life has always been friendships But sharing this belief with others over the years proven to be a challenge that I was beginning to think of myself as an oddball or wanting too much from my friends This book proves otherwise and it s great to know someone out there agrees with me I ve recently
BECOME VERY INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIPS OFvery interested in friendships of kinds and how individuals form maintain and end these relationships across time so this book jumped out to me at my local library In I found the first half of Friendfluence a bit ry because the information wasn t new to me I already knew most of it intuitively and from #EXPERIENCE IT WAS INTERESTING BUT I #It was interesting but I t learning anything that I thought was surprising as the subtitle sugge. Discover the unexpected ways friends influence our personalities choices emotions and even physical health in this fun and compelling examination of friendship based on the latest scientific research and ever relatable anecdotesWhy is inner with friends often laughter filled and less fraught than a meal with family Although some say it’s because we choose our friends it’s also because we expect less of them than we o of relatives While we’re busy scrutinizing our romantic relationships and family Hunter Killer (Pike Logan dramas our friends are uietly but strongly influencing everything from the articles we read to our weight fluctuations from our sex lives to our overall happiness levelsEvolutionary psychologists have long theorized that friendship has roots in our earlyependence on others for survival These ays we still cherish friends but tend to undervalue their role in our lives However the skills one needs to make good. .
G to a new scho Some fascinating facts and a few surprises here For example One survey found that 18 24 year olds are nearly four times as likely as people over 55 to have a best friend of the opposite sex In contrast in a study that explored the role of best friends in the lives of married couples an older cohort not a single person among the 654 participants eclared that they had someone of the opposite sex as a close friend However this book is limited by typical constraints of the pop psych genre including big generalizations that are based
SMALL HOMOGENEOUS SAMPLES AN OVERLY COLLOUIALhomogeneous samples an overly collouial style carries a lot of unexamined class race and cultural biases and the fashionable but unproven social Darwinist thesis that the urge to procreate The Friend Zone drives our lives. Iends for intellectual stimulation emotional support and a goodose of merriment find a perfect outlet to relieve the pressures of raising children In the office setting talking to a friend for just a few minutes can temporarily boost one’s memory While we romanticize the idea of the lone genius friendship often spurs creativity in the arts and sciences And in recent studies having close friends was found to reduce a person’s risk of eath #from breast cancer and coronary isease while having a spouse was not Friendfluence surveys online #breast cancer and coronary Alpha (Shifters, disease while having a spouse was not Friendfluence surveys online pals friend breakups the power of social networks envy peer pressure theark side of amicable ties and many other varieties of friendship Told with warmth scientific rigor and a Whalerider dash of humor Friendfluence not only illuminates and interprets the science butraws on clinical psychology and philosophy to help readers evaluate and navigate their own important friendship. Sts I id love that it was a well researched compilation of study
findings 235 resourcesI found the second half of the book engaging specifically in235 resourcesI found the second half of the book engaging specifically in chapters about the perks of friendship and how technology affects friendship Reading the research findings from social networking studies made me wish I had stuck with studying sociology in college Where was that friendfluence when I needed itYou can t read Friendfluence without reflecting on the friendships from your life and I was happy to recall how my
life has been blessed by many wonderful friends We moved a lot forhas been blessed by many wonderful friends We moved a lot for good reason when I was a kid By the time I got to grade ten I been in eight schools four ifferent schools #just in grade eight I never had any problem making friends but I #in grade eight I never had any problem making friends but I say it was hard goin. Friends are among the very skills that lead to success in life and scientific research has recently exploded with insights about the meaningful and enduring ways friendships influence us With people marrying later and often not at all and families having just one child these relationships may be gaining in importance The evidence even suggests that at times friends have a greater hand in our evelopment and well being than Considering Kate (The Stanislaskis, do our romantic partners and relativesFriends see each other through the process of growing up shape each other’s interests and outlooks and painful though it may be expose each other’s rough edges Childhood and adolescence in particular are marked by the need to createistance between oneself and one’s parents while forging a uniue identity within a group of peers but friends continue to influence us in ways big and small straight through old agePerpetually busy parents who turn to fr. .